03 March 2015

The Cinderella Complex





Fairy tales mean a fictitious, highly fanciful story or explanation, mostly exaggerated to make them more interesting.

As a little girl, I used to watch lots of Disney’s movies, still do actually. My favourite has always been The Little Mermaid. I think everybody knows how the movie goes. The pretty young mermaid falls in love with a handsome prince, defies her father in order to be with the prince, decides to see the witch, gets a pair of legs but loses her melodious voice, slowly tries to make the prince falling in love with her, then the enemy gets in her way, tries to steal the man, eventually the good prevails, the prince has always been in love with her, the father agrees, marriage comes next, and everybody lives happily ever after.

What a beauty, isn't it? A heart-gripping love  story. A love story that makes you stuck in a moment of awe. The kind of love story that every girl's dreams. Where the handsome guy marries the pretty lady and lives happily ever after and every girls want to be that pretty lady.

But then, everybody knows that The Little Mermaid is based on Hans Christian Andersen's fairy tale. It is still about a young mermaid willing to give up her life in the sea and her identity as a mermaid to gain a human soul and the love of a human prince. Instead of harbouring his love for the young mermaid, the prince falls in love with another girl, leaves the young mermaid heart broken and in despair. To  regain back her life as a mermaid once more, she has to kill the prince and his love interest, but how can she possibly kill the man who she loves dearly?  So instead, she throws herself into the sea and her body dissolves into foam. That's the real end of the Little Mermaid.

Not so happy eh?

What am I trying to say is, fairy tales do not always have a happy ending. The point is to learn a life lesson, not to live happily ever after. Happily ever after has never existed. This concept was concocted by those who are too afraid to embrace everyday's challenge.

Fairy tales bring you to the world full with dreams. Fairy tales make us dare to dream but mostly not dare enough to make it true. If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up. Life is more than a knight on a valiant steed or castles so high they reach the sky or a missing glass slipper.

So dear me, stop dreaming and start acting. There's is no such thing as a happy ending unless you decide whether your ending should be happy or not. Stop waiting for your prince and start being your own princess. Stop pretending that everything's gonna be okay when you realize, you've crapped it out unless you find the urge to fix it back. Dear me, stay on the ground. Never let yourself floating aimlessly in the air.